DG'S STAND " I DO " By Luvbogg

I went through this post and in all honesty its a most read before you say  " I Do"..

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As far as getting married is concerned you never really know, so just follow your instincts, yea I didn’t say heart because in all fairness the heart has got little or nothing to do with anything under the circumstance. The heart is safely tucked away inside the body pumping blood and all such things, while the face has to wake up to the same face every morning for an entire lifetime! Heart indeed!

There are so many reasons why people get married, A guy once told me that a girl could date a guy simply because she liked his smile, the way he walked, or his bow-legs, don’t know much about that personally, because one way or the other I feel it is quite hard to pin point exactly why you love whom you love, but that’s not what this is about anyway…this is about why people get married. People have been known to get married for diverse reasons; Love, Procreation, Money, Looks and then there’s ‘Just because’.

‘Just because’ it seems fashionable to get married, just because the man lives in America and wanted a wife, just because Ngozi got married and looks pretty wearing a diamond ring! The ‘just because’ list is inexhaustible…but ‘Just because’ could be terrible because you may wake up two weeks after the wedding and realize you can’t stand your new ‘husband’, you hate the way he stands, laughs, or even holds his toothbrush while brushing his teeth, it could just be that he reminds you of Cletus, the security guy in the next compound. Yes ‘just because’ can go so terribly wrong!

Another sorry reason to marry is getting married for looks, because those looks may just not be there someday; tall dark and handsome may very well grow a pot belly and be turned into Shrek or worse still when the bad habits start sneaking out, the looks may not count after all. For instance you may have to convince yourself that a Prince Charming who let’s out stinking farts in his sleep night after night is still Princely! I mean each day as dusk draws near and night eventually comes all you will be able to think of are ways to dodge having to go to bed, knowing what awaits you therein! In such an instance pray tell, what good will his handsome and breath-taking looks do you? See my point?

People say it is best to marry for Love, who am I to disagree? But for a fact I believe love is not enough. If marriages depended on just Love they wouldn’t last the first night. Please don’t tell me Love is kind, Love is forgiving, Love is patient, and this and that I know about all of that but the subject is marriage and not love and trust me there are moments you will be wronged by your spouse and the last thing you will think to do is recite ‘Love forgives’ or ‘Love is kind’ because you will be devising ways to pay back! So love by itself doesn’t stand a chance, yea I say so!

Now if you marry for Money, can it ever go wrong? I mean wouldn’t it be Romance all the way?…he snaps at you and you get a Gucci Bag, he goes on endless trips, you go for Paris Fashion week and buy any and everything that catches your fancy? What I like about this type of marriage is that you get into it with your eyes wide open, no illusions. You play wife and get all the material things money can buy in return finito! Pretty straight forward and perfect for some people. If your priority in life is simply to be comfortable then this, my friend, is your spec!

But if you ask me what actually matters in all of this, regardless of your circumstance, marrying your friend is a good idea, because a day will certainly come when all the two of you will have left is that friendship. All the looks, passion and youth will be spent but you will still be able to look at each other and smile. You will both take turns teasing each other about your ageing bodies, and non-functional waists.

As the years go by it will be less about the physical, less passion and more about what’s inside, companionship, someone to talk to, turn to, take long walks with and simply boring stuff like that. As you plan to take the giant leap of marriage remember this.

…But if you consider all these and marry for money thumbs up to you.